Goodbye, Fear, and good riddance!!

DappleGrayMyWay · 08-01-2008, 10:00 PM

I want to type this in all caps to yell it from the rooftops:

I'M NOT AFRAID OF MY OWN HORSE ANYMORE!! WE DID IT, WE'RE ON THE OTHER SIDE AND IT'S GREAT HERE!!

Okay I'm done now

Short version: Nasty fall in January. Total loss of confidence with my Tule (only him though, any other horse I'm still fine). Barely got back on him at all for four months. Found, by chance, a great trainer. Put Tule into twice-a-week lessons. Gradually worked my way up to splitting the time, half the trainer rides, second half I ride. Flash forward to two days ago. Put the saddle on him on a lark because we were both in good moods, planets aligned, whatever. Had a quick couple of circuits around the arena with no issues...just us, no trainer. Tonight, time for lesson, and it was all me! I got up first, I rode until I was tired (out of shape, yuck), and trainer finished up with some solid trot transitions.

The whole time I was in control. No fear, no lack of confidence, no doubts, just me and my amazing horse again. The sky is once again the limit!!

Also, I really feel like even when the next fall happens (and I'm not so dumb that I think it won't), I'll be ready to bounce back right away.

I'm so happy!

**seerfarm** · 08-01-2008, 10:04 PM

Well a big congratulations to you...way to go!!!!!!!!!

robertsquarters · 08-01-2008, 10:07 PM

Congratulations to you! That is wonderful!!

NoniMe · 08-01-2008, 10:08 PM

I know that feeling...and it's a great one. It does deserve all caps.

Congratulations!!

Best-
Noni

**gbarmranch** · 08-02-2008, 08:55 AM

I think we have all been there.. and it is the best feeling in the world when you can overcome it... Yoohoo.. good for you! Congratulations!!!!!

Freedomnchrist · 08-02-2008, 08:58 AM

Yippeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

So happy for you!

Carri · 08-02-2008, 01:46 PM

Good for you!!

That is so great! What a wonderful feeling!

Horse_Orderly · 08-03-2008, 11:43 AM

Congratulations! It feels so good to be back on a horse and comfortable that you're there isn't it?
I've been there myself!

ahlihaff · 08-03-2008, 02:58 PM

Good for you. That is wonderful. I'm in the process of regaining my confidence after a wreck in May.

ChasnCans · 08-03-2008, 03:04 PM

Congrats Girl!!! Wayyy Tooooo Gooooo!!

Wolfie · 08-04-2008, 01:31 AM

Congrats! I'm happy for you.

Crookedblaze · 08-04-2008, 01:37 AM

Congrats and MAJOR kudos!

BornToRide · 08-04-2008, 03:59 PM

YAY I love happy stories

I am super happy for you..
GREAT job girl!

b-mark · 08-05-2008, 03:51 PM

WAYYYY to go!!!!
And it ain't all that easy, I know!

Good for you and Tule! Keep it up, girl!

HorseMomToSage · 08-05-2008, 06:16 PM

Congratulations! Thanks for sharing that with us-it's inspiring because we've all been there. Tell me how you did it-did you psych yourself or was it the trainer helping you?

ToveroMom · 08-05-2008, 06:31 PM

Wow now THAT is a great accomplishment. Congrats

ILoveMyPaint · 08-05-2008, 07:29 PM

congratulations!

its good to hear that confidence does come back with some effort. i am just too scared to put the effort in with my horse, your an inspiration i hope to get there to someday, you know to the other side. way to go!

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DappleGrayMyWay Yearling Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: NC (Asheville) Posts: 882	Goodbye, Fear, and good riddance!! I want to type this in all caps to yell it from the rooftops: I'M NOT AFRAID OF MY OWN HORSE ANYMORE!! WE DID IT, WE'RE ON THE OTHER SIDE AND IT'S GREAT HERE!! Okay I'm done now Short version: Nasty fall in January. Total loss of confidence with my Tule (only him though, any other horse I'm still fine). Barely got back on him at all for four months. Found, by chance, a great trainer. Put Tule into twice-a-week lessons. Gradually worked my way up to splitting the time, half the trainer rides, second half I ride. Flash forward to two days ago. Put the saddle on him on a lark because we were both in good moods, planets aligned, whatever. Had a quick couple of circuits around the arena with no issues...just us, no trainer. Tonight, time for lesson, and it was all me! I got up first, I rode until I was tired (out of shape, yuck), and trainer finished up with some solid trot transitions. The whole time I was in control. No fear, no lack of confidence, no doubts, just me and my amazing horse again. The sky is once again the limit!! Also, I really feel like even when the next fall happens (and I'm not so dumb that I think it won't), I'll be ready to bounce back right away. I'm so happy! __________________ My sanity is with my horse, and if you see them, please send them back to the barn. Tule Pepper

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ILoveMyPaint Weanling Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: massachusetts Posts: 298	congratulations! its good to hear that confidence does come back with some effort. i am just too scared to put the effort in with my horse, your an inspiration i hope to get there to someday, you know to the other side. way to go!