Self-destructive Grieving?

fable · 11-19-2009, 09:45 PM

So, as a lot of you may know, I recently lost my beloved dog... but in the house have also been 2 cats, around about the same length of time as her. For the first day or two they seemed alright... but then they began to notice. Started with aimless wandering around the house, then late at night smelling all of her sleep spots. It's now escalated to wandering, deep meowing (like, confused/upset), and the cat that has been doing that meowing has also begun to roll around and very vigorously clean herself, many times chasing her tail and biting it/other various parts of her body. The other cat isn't quite as bad, but seems currently very "high strung" and restless.

I made the mistake of giving them cat nip, thinking it'd occupy them / allow them to crash after... the one, less upset cat managed to get his tooth stuck in his collar... almost broke his jaw. it took me holding him and his head down and my dad cutting the collar to free him. I am now left with a very badly bloodied and swollen arm/hand... anyway,

what can we do for them???

singing tree · 11-19-2009, 10:00 PM

How sad! Don't really know what to say, but that time will help heal the cats as well as yourself.

fable · 11-19-2009, 10:12 PM

Hmm... they seem to also be sniffing the place where she died. Although it would be difficult to do, would scrubbing that area with a cleaner help at all? When she died, there was no blood or anything involved... just of course the body "letting go".

farmergal · 11-20-2009, 01:31 PM

I'm not sure it's death they smell but rather the strongest sent of her. I'd give them extra luven as you are both grieving and missing her. Together you may find some peace.

sundancer maiden · 11-20-2009, 04:39 PM

There is a product called Feliway (sp?), I think it's pheromoes. Plug in or spray, ask your vet or local pet store. It is suppose to calm cats down. But lots of love and reassurance never hurts!!

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11-19-2009, 09:45 PM
fable Newborn Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 48	Self-destructive Grieving? So, as a lot of you may know, I recently lost my beloved dog... but in the house have also been 2 cats, around about the same length of time as her. For the first day or two they seemed alright... but then they began to notice. Started with aimless wandering around the house, then late at night smelling all of her sleep spots. It's now escalated to wandering, deep meowing (like, confused/upset), and the cat that has been doing that meowing has also begun to roll around and very vigorously clean herself, many times chasing her tail and biting it/other various parts of her body. The other cat isn't quite as bad, but seems currently very "high strung" and restless. I made the mistake of giving them cat nip, thinking it'd occupy them / allow them to crash after... the one, less upset cat managed to get his tooth stuck in his collar... almost broke his jaw. it took me holding him and his head down and my dad cutting the collar to free him. I am now left with a very badly bloodied and swollen arm/hand... anyway, what can we do for them??? __________________ rest in peace, Lassie (Friday November 13th, 2009) Last edited by fable : 11-19-2009 at 09:46 PM. Reason: spelling

11-19-2009, 10:00 PM
singing tree Coming two Join Date: May 2009 Location: Hartville, Ohio Posts: 1,957	How sad! Don't really know what to say, but that time will help heal the cats as well as yourself.

11-19-2009, 10:12 PM
fable Newborn Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 48	Hmm... they seem to also be sniffing the place where she died. Although it would be difficult to do, would scrubbing that area with a cleaner help at all? When she died, there was no blood or anything involved... just of course the body "letting go". __________________ rest in peace, Lassie (Friday November 13th, 2009)

11-20-2009, 01:31 PM
farmergal Kid Safe Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: New York Posts: 6,313	I'm not sure it's death they smell but rather the strongest sent of her. I'd give them extra luven as you are both grieving and missing her. Together you may find some peace. __________________ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiiHKOLiCG4

11-20-2009, 04:39 PM
sundancer maiden Coming two Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Udall, KS Posts: 1,681	There is a product called Feliway (sp?), I think it's pheromoes. Plug in or spray, ask your vet or local pet store. It is suppose to calm cats down. But lots of love and reassurance never hurts!! __________________ You don't have to be crazy to be my friend, but it helps!!!